Decide Please

September 2nd, 2020

When presented with a menu of choices we humans like to break it down to two selections and then pick one of the two.  Lots of theories out there as to why we do this but this action is well documented.  I think with our culture steeped in dichotomies for such a long epoch we naturally engaged those types of patterns (good/bad; right/wrong; etc.) and it does activate inductive reasoning (intuition).  We have this resource that is always running and will automatically make a “choice” between limited courses of action based on past experience.  No thinking, no need to do a conscious search for data and it burns no calories.  Literally a free service and it works great—with some exceptions.  If your history in life has been unpleasant, abusive or repulsive then those options will fill your intuition database.  Not an easy process to override.  And, of course, all bets are off during a cultural change.  What worked in the past is now ineffectual.  I’m sure I addressed this issue in previous blogs but this becomes paramount during our present mandate.

This process is referred to as an “A/B comparison” and we should take a look at the logical struggle that it places us in.  With only two options to choose from, in our present “no-truth meme”, it is a set-up to be 50% wrong and 50% right on average.  No truth means no external support for either alternative—can you trust a Google search?  And, if you’re not personally comfortable with decision- making, you will hold and present two options to everyone around you as a “demand” to entertain the duo and make the decision.  None of this is intentional but it does sway you emotionally.  Most of us, in our present personal growth, are looking at what influences us, what we wish to support and what to abandon.  Do you see how this is forcing folks to polarize?  The cultural offer is no longer about being right but to share your opinions, not defend them, with others in your life.  Input with these relationships will enrich and inform you towards a positive decision.  It is no longer judged as right or wrong but it could be the influence you need at this moment in time.  The clue here is if someone states “I’m doing this for me” they are talking through the mask of intuition.  “Me” is a familiar from the past and not necessarily a potential for your future. 

The future is always unknown.  Perhaps imagined, a potential or just a direction—a starting point on a journey.  In the logical system the end of a “line” is a point.  For us humans the end is death.  Get the point?  Growth is finding a new line from the end point of the last flowing into a different direction.  Becoming is to be done with the old line and point and begin anew.  A wise step to help integrate this is to always have more than three options available before you initiate decision-making.  Spending a little time with each potential will override the short-cut offered by intuition.  A well-formed decision puts you in motion; a correct decision is only a point. 


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