Imagine Not Knowing

March 1st, 2024

Let’s begin building our references for dealing with the unknown from our very early years.  You may recall, the set-up was very different as a youngster.  Generally, very little expectation that you knew how to perform in most situations.  Most kids had some assistance with small tasks, had lots of repetitive training and had someone willing to manage if they got distracted, fatigued or just bored.  Our very early years (pre three) allowed us familiarity with movement and we stored all those occurrences as pattens in our body.  Over time, anticipated responses were attached as an addition or amendment to the already stored unconscious movement patterns.

We learned early that some “words” had assignments but a collection of spoken words produced some type of “story” (a pattern defined by words or sounds and not just movement).  We had a very accelerated learning curve with very little conflicted experiences.  Those defiant “no” rebellions at age two were tolerated and managed. From the start we tended to preference people with the same appearance, and soon, the same language.  The process was designed to create good tribal (culture or just family) members, well defended (and restricted) by unconscious patterns along a theme of supporting local harmony (less no’s) by stories or actions. 

The course from child to young adult transitioned through very turbulent teen years for most.  Stories began to layer over patterns and build complexity—the nature of subconscious configurations.  This produced a force that felt restrictive yet somehow a safe perimeter.  What typically creates the turbulence is the need to find this balance point, an allowable amount of risk.  Change requires a larger range of possibles by sampling experiences beyond the trained childhood standard.  The task of identifying and securing an appropriate level of risk is the act of maturing—having a range to make a decision in.  This intensity of development is a set-up for your starting gate to explore potential as an adult. 

As you are all aware, there are a lot of variables to the above story.  The good news, we began as imagined and preserve our relationship to imagination throughout development.  If we learn skills and cultivate imagination we are on a path to a future potential. 

  • We need to develop a larger range or we live forever with mom
  • We need to discover a different way to do everything or old patterns rule
  • We need to help others and allow others to help us
  • Learn to define and secure your skill and respect the skill of others
  • It is not what you believe but what you do and do well
  • No such thing as value unless it is distributed
  • Entertain the meaning of “no” as “not that way”

I offer a set of goals and the clues are in your potential for most, and others in defined skills.  Never a competition because we all share a deadline.  If you dream of winning that race just follows your habit of being.  The game is complex and I believe a top-down form of creation.  When you play a “box game” it does not matter who wins; at some point the game is over and the box is shelved.  Is your goal the box or the engagement?    


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